One of the most important, and often ignored, reasons to date, is to discover if the man is someone you want to create a relationship with. What most women do is start building a relationship the moment they become interested in a man. A woman wrote to me asking how she could use Feminine Grace [...]

I got a note from a woman who said she’s a Feminist and not interested in what I teach about how to have a deeply loving relationship with a good man. But she was searching for help in the relationship arena, which tells me it’s not going the way she’d like. Duh! What this kind [...]

It’s a common scenario. He breaks up with you, then BAM!, he’s immediately in a new relationship. But you’re still in love with him because not enough time has gone by for you to let go. I know you’re hurting, for a variety of reasons. One of the most powerful is the loss of the [...]

Most men don’t want to admit they might be going through midlife crisis. When a man does, it’s meaningful. I wrote a book on the topic, and right before I was ready to publish it, my computers were stolen and that book as well. I need to write it again, but first, because I have [...]

My expertise is understanding men. That means I teach women what men want, what they’re attracted to for a ‘real’ relationship (not just sexual attraction), what causes them to fall in love, and what makes them want to stay with a woman and commit to her for the long term. The sad thing is that [...]

What is a woman supposed to think when a man says he needs space? Men are pretty straight-forward. It probably means he needs to retreat and regroup himself, which is another way of saying he needs to get by himself and think. Beyond, that stop torturing yourself wondering what’s going on. He’ll let you know [...]

A woman in my Private Support Group* asked me how to get her boyfriend to compliment her. It  felt like it was of such importance to her that it would eventually push him away. Then, “Grenade,” Bruno Mar’s song, came on my iTunes. I love the sound of the song, but the lyrics are insane. [...]

An older woman wrote to me recently, wanting to know how she could meet a man. This is a topic near and dear to my heart because my man is much younger. And NO, I am not a cougar. I do not like that term, any more than I like other labels. When we label [...]

I was talking to a woman recently and as usually happens, the topic of what I do came up. After explaining that I write books, do public speaking and led workshops and seminars about relationships, she told me she was looking for a man to be in a relationship with. Everything she said she was [...]

He’s struggling with the choice of you, or his ex, or someone new that he’s met. What do you do? The best advice I can offer in this situation, in order to win him completely, is be the one who makes him feel like a worthy man. There are two Secrets about men that are [...]