…Without Taking Over His “Job” Of Being the Man One thing I’ve learned in talking to men over the years is that when the woman makes the first move, it puts things on the wrong foot from the beginning… and it’s hard to get it back to where it would have been if he’d made [...]

I’ve been reading Eckhart Tolle’s book, A New Earth, Awakening To Your Life’s Purpose. On page 88 he talks about how we play rolls to attract someone to “make me happy, make me feel special, make me feel complete.” The problem with rolls is that we’re not showing a man our true, authentic self. So [...]

One of the things I’ve noticed is that when women over 35 get back into the dating scene they get way too serious. It’s like they’ve taken on this mission and to accomplish it, they have to grit their teeth, put their head into the wind, and plow forward. Come on, think about it, haven’t [...]

An ongoing topic for women is sharing their frustration about why a man doesn’t call back. They delve into each little detail of the encounter, like a miner ankle-deep in a stream, panning for gold. Whether a chance meeting at the supermarket, after what seemed like a made-in-heaven first date, or worse, after a night [...]

I was talking with a woman recently – around 50 years old – who was really interested  when I told her I was a Relationship Mentor. She said she was looking for a great guy. Then she went into a description of her more recent experiences with men. When she was asking me about my [...]

Someone received a message from me and at the bottom after my name I always put The Heart Whisperer™ and Director of The School Of Charm, Seduction and Feminine Grace. I got the following message back from one man: Sounds good. But how do you teach seduction? I learned from Playboy. (A lot of good [...]

This was a comment from Rob when he commented on a note I had sent him on Facebook: Director of the School of Charm, Seduction and Feminine Grace? I guess from your profile that you walk your talk. And what about us poor fellas that could really use some masculine grace? Here’s my response to [...]

I’ve been having fun on Facebook and have gotten to know some very interesting people. When looking around for “friends” to connect with, I’m fascinated to see what poses and attire some women choose for their photos. I’d love to write to them to ask if they are looking for nookie and not friends. If [...]

One of the biggest mistakes women make is that they pummel the man with questions that make him feel like he’s there for a job interview. “Do you want to get married?” “By when?” “Do you want children?” “How soon and how many?” “What kind of job do you have?” “Do you own your own [...]

I was coaching a woman recently and she mentioned that it was uncomfortable to give compliments, appreciation and acknowledgments. (For this discussion, let’s call them CA&As) As you may have noticed, I call myself The Heart Whisperer™. So I always come from the perspective of opening my heart to the other person’s. The simplest way [...]