What should you look out for when you start communicating with a man on the internet? Well, a gigantic red flag to watch for is when they want to talk about sex, especially phone sex if you end up talking on the phone.

There are too many sexual predators on the internet who have learned what to say to women to break down their natural barriers of caution. They often will offer a sad incident that has happened to them, which brings out the nurturer in a woman. Nothing drops our barriers more quickly. They know how to get a woman to relax and think they’re sensitive men. They know how to tap into a woman’s loneliness. They’re good at what they do and should be avoided at all cost.

Every woman I’ve ever spoken to about bad experiences with men on the internet admit they ignored the red flags that were right in front of their faces.

It’s easy to develop feelings for someone over the internet. Especially with men who have learned “what women want to hear.” What happens is we learn a little bit about someone, they say things that make us open our hearts (like some tragedy they’re struggling with), fill the void of loneliness, and stay in touch so we become attached to them. Then what we women do, and we’re very good at this, is fill in all the blanks with a fantasy.

When a woman doesn’t know very much about a man she will automatically make up the parts she doesn’t know about. The fantasy becomes the bigger part of what and who she thinks he is and that keeps her heart involved and eventually, feeling like she actually loves him.

The first stages of love are all about the other person making us feel great about ourselves. A sexual predators is a master at this. They make the woman feel attractive, interesting, self-confident, even more whole…but it’s all make believe when she doesn’t know the person…and very dangerous.

The moment a man you haven’t met brings up sex, under any guise, you must immediately cut off all communication, no matter how involved your heart is. It is not worth the risk.

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer™
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