I seem to always be harping on “being” beautiful… but it’s because that is the best way to get men to respond positively to you and most important, once he’s fallen in love with you, it keeps him in love. In my book, Men Made Easy, I explain that it’s your inner beauty, what I call Feminine Grace, that causes a man to love you and want to develop a long-term relationship with you. And how we treat a man, and everyone else, is a reflection of our inner beauty. Men can get pretty attached to a woman’s outer beauty, but if she is sour, never happy or beats him up all the time, he’s eventually going to get worn out and leave. And he can’t and won’t explain why. He just knows he no longer feels good being around her.

Sometimes it feels like we can’t help being ‘ugly.’ I’ve noticed when I have one little, tiny, itsy, bitsy thing cause me to get a little bit off center, then the next thing, which could be just as insignificant, causes me to react more strongly than if that first thing hadn’t pushed my buttons. Then the next little thing causes me to over react even more… and on and on.

Does that happen to you? Once that gets started then everything seems to upset me. I call this the Doo-Doo Magnet Syndrome. It’s like you become a magnet for doo-doo once you are even a little bit upset. The reason this make you “ugly” is because you generally get whiny, cranky, pissy, angry, negative, and sometimes all the above. Completely the opposite of beautiful.

Here’s what I do when I want to stop the cycle: I switch over to thinking of my many blessings, all that I’m grateful for. It’s not always easy, and usually not instantaneous, but if I want to shift back to my usual happy self and get back into my attractive energy, it always disconnects the doo-doo magnet and makes me feel a whole lot better.

Try it the next time the doo-doo starts piling up. You’ll be much more beautiful. If you don’t want to try it, it simply means you like being ugly. That’s certainly your prerogative but not conducive to creating a loving relationship, and certainly will never, ever make you attractive to a man, at least not a healthy man.

From my heart to yours,

Kara Oh
Men Made Easy will teach you how to be beautiful from the inside out