I was having coffee with a friend the other morning and she said she has so many women friends who are in their 50’s and 60’s, some never married, who don’t go out, then complain all the time there are no good men out there.

Finding your life partner is a numbers game. Even if you hire a Matchmaker, or go online, you can’t expect the first man you meet to be the right one. Yes, it could happen, but there’s a reason you need to commit to keep dating and going out as often as you can. If you are seriously looking for that special man, never turn down an invitation. You’ve got to get out there and meet lots and lots of people.

If you say you want to find a partner, but you don’t get out, guess what, you’re not even a tiny bit committed to making it happen. He is not going to walk up to your door and announce, “Hi, I heard you were looking for me. So let’s get on with our perfect relationship.”

Join organizations that interest you (but don’t go to things that will have only or even mostly women). Take classes (same rule applies). Dancing lessons, sports that you enjoy and junior college or adult ed classes.

Say yes to every social invitation. But do go to things that interest you so you will have at least that in common with whomever you might meet. And remember it’s not just about meeting single men. Everyone knows at least one single man. You might meet a married man or woman, or a single woman who would be thrilled to fix you up. You have to keep yourself open to those possibilities all the time.

Here’s a great idea for meeting new people. Invite your friends to your home for a little party. Tell each person, man or woman, they have to bring a single friend of the opposite sex. Not only will everyone have a chance to find a potential romance, there will also be opportunities to meet a new girlfriend. Plus, your social sphere will grow, which means more opportunities to be invited to fun events.

If you want it you’ve got to put out the effort. How committed are you? You may say you’re committed but how much you’re willing to work to make good things happen is the real truth.

From my heart to yours,

Kara Oh
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