“If you want men to respond to you in ways that are more caring, admiring, and loving, you must first begin to see them differently.”    From Men Made Easy

The first step in getting a man to change is to accept him as he is. Sound crazy? It works if it’s sincere and respectful.

When you try to get a man to change, he knows you don’t think he’s okay the way he is. Why should he? And he certainly won’t feel understood. This makes him defensive. A defensive man is not able to be loving, caring, or romantic and certainly isn’t going to be excited to do things to make you happy.

In the beginning of a relationship you generally think the man is wonderful. Have you noticed that’s when he can’t get enough of you? That’s when he thinks about you and calls you just to talk. That’s also when he’s romantic, takes you places, buys you gifts, and wants to give you the world. A man falls in love because of how you make him feel about himself. You make him feel like a man, a hero, like Superman.

When that newness wears off so does the sheen and you begin to see areas where he can be improved. And that’s exactly when his desire to romance you begins to fade.

It’s a woman’s nature to want to improve and beautify, but it backfires when it’s the man she’s trying to change. If you can bring yourself to accept him just as he is—and this may be really difficult at first—you’ll see subtle shifts take place. As he feels understood, he learns to trust that you are sincere. That’s when he’ll relax and see you as the woman he fell in love with, because once again, you make him feel like a man and that’s when love can blossom anew.

The second step, which should be in tandem with the first–of accepting him as he is–is to begin to change how you interact with him. In Men Made Easy, a big part of what I teach is how to embrace, celebrate and expand your Feminine Grace. As you do so, you will shift in beautiful ways. As you shift from within, and begin to glow with a new found sense of feminine empowerment, he will change “IN RESPONSE” to the changes occurring within you.

Following these two steps above, together, you will begin a new dance where you enjoy a new rhythm of deepening love, respect and passion.

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer™