One of the biggest mistakes women make is that they pummel the man with questions that make him feel like he’s there for a job interview. “Do you want to get married?” “By when?” “Do you want children?” “How soon and how many?” “What kind of job do you have?” “Do you own your own home?” “Where is your home?” Do you see how a man might react to this type of questioning? A date should be fun, not torture. (Yes, men do this as well, but not nearly as often.)

On the first date, there should be 3 goals:
1. Help him feel relaxed (which helps you feel relaxed),
2. enjoy each others company,
3. learn about each other in a fun way.

Remember, this is not the first step to the alter. It’s just a date. and should just be a fun time getting to know a new man. Period.

With the following questions, you can achieve all 3 of the above goals. That’s because they’re playful, curious, not intimidating, and you can both answer the questions, creating a fun conversation where you can relax, enjoy each other and learn who the other person is. But don’t go down the list, one after the other. Just work them into the conversation naturally. And don’t forget the first rule of being a great conversationalist: be a good listener.

Here are 6 first date questions:

1. What historical figure would you like to talk to and what would you say?
2. What do you think people most admire about you?
3. What makes you unique.
4. What are you really good at?
5. What is your favorite way to spend time with friends?
6. What are you most proud of?

If you like these questions, in my Date Smart and Win His Heart ebook, there are more first date questions and several second and third date questions. Each list is designed to go a little deeper into who each of you are, but in a fun and non-threatening way.

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer™

The Heart Whisperer™

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