Not that long ago online dating was something people made fun of and were afraid of. Today, it’s an accepted, even expected, way for people to find love. But, it’s new to all of us so we don’t have the training or experience to know how to use this technology to it’s full advantage. Here are seven tips to help you have more success if you select to find love online.

#1 – Trust Your Intuition
Online dating requires a strong connection to your intuition. Every person I’ve spoken to about a bad experience has told me that they ignored their intuition.

If you get taken in by salespeople, get your heart broken easily, or you’re afraid of strangers, you should not meet anyone online. If you’re self-confident, know yourself well, and can say no to a handsome, charming man or an adorable woman because you feel “something’s not quite right,” then give it a try.

#2 – Pick the Right Service
Pick a service that’s easy to negotiate and feels good to you. Many allow a short trial. If you require a special category, like Jewish or Christian, try those first.

#3 – Be Truthful
Answer the questionnaire truthfully. Two things people lie about the most (besides being married) is weight and age. Women think “he won’t care once we meet” and men often don’t realize their weight and age are an issue.

There are people who don’t care, or even prefer, someone with a little added weight. So why not be honest and find those people? Best bet on weight? Just be healthy. And for heaven’s sake, post flattering but current photos.

#4 – Be Your “Best” Self
When answering essay questions, emails and during phone conversations, be clever and interesting, but be yourself. When I tried online dating I began my essay questions with “Once upon a time there was a fair maiden”, and kept the theme going. The emails I got were fun, clever and playful.

#5 – Be Interesting AND Interested
Of course you want someone who’s interested in you, but so do they. Balance the time each gets to ask and answer questions. Ask questions like, “What gives you the greatest satisfaction at this time in your life?” or, “What’s the most fun you ever had?” Then, shut up and listen. Too often, we don’t listen because we’re planning what we want to say next, then wonder why they’re not interested.

#6 – Don’t Fall In Love
Take your time before meeting face-to-face. People are often more open before meeting and feelings get built up. Watch for red flags as you email and talk on the phone. Once your gut says, “Yes, this person is too interesting not to meet,” then make a date for coffee or lunch in case you don’t hit it off.

#7 – Be Prepared For a “No Thanks”
When you finally do meet, more often than not, the spark will be missing. That’s okay. It doesn’t say anything about you except that it’s just not a fit. Thank each other for the opportunity to meet and wish each other well. Then tell yourself, “Next.”

To get the most success out of ALL your interactions with men, you’ll definitely want to learn everything I teach in my book about men, Men Made Easy as well as my dating package, From Flirting To Forever. When you know the secrets I reveal about men, you’ll be way ahead of the game.

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer™