Women write to me all the time wanting me to help them “guess” where they stand with a man. I always have to ask if they’ve been having sex and WAY TOO OFTEN, they are.

Here’s the rule: DO NOT have sex with a man until you feel strongly he’s someone you want to pursue a long-term relationship with. DO NOT have sex with a man until you have a verbal promise that neither of you will date anyone else and DO NOT have sex with a man until you have a verbal promise that neither of you will have sex with anyone else.

Why, as I have said in previous articles, because when you have intercourse with a man, you become chemically and emotionally bonded to him. If you don’t know where you stand with him, that is a recipe for craziness. We women go crazy when we are falling in love and we don’t know where we stand with him. How insane is that?

So the next question I get is, “So how do I back off and get that commitment from him, now that we’ve already been having sex?”

Here’s the essence of what you need to say to him, but in your own words:

“You make me feel amazing, in every way. I especially like how much I enjoy being a woman because of how you treat me. And the way you make love to me…well, that’s off the charts. I am struggling though. It goes against everything I am to continue to be physically intimate with you until I know we are not going to date anyone else, and certainly not going to have sex with anyone else. If you’re not able to do that, then it’s best if we are just friends.”

If he can’t give you those promises, then do you want to continue to live in CrazyLand?

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From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer™