You may not realize it, but more than anything, your guy wants to feel like you appreciate, respect, and accept him for who he is as a man. With that, he’ll feel understood and understanding is, at least for him, the ultimate gift you can give him.

For married woman:
He wants to make you happy, to be a good provider, to be your rock, so letting him know all the ways he’s accomplishing that is a better gift than anything else you can give him.

This will be a true Care Package…like he’s never had before. Men aren’t “into” gifts like women are but this is a gift he’ll treasure because he’ll know that you really do understand what makes him tick. The benefit to you is it costs hardly anything and he’s likely to transform into that romantic, starry-eyed prince that you fell in love with.

For single women:
If you’re single and wish to do something that will make him feel like, “Hey, this is an amazing woman that I’d be a fool to lose,” you’ll want to give him this gift. No other woman will have given him this gift before. Guaranteed!

For moms with kids:
If you have kids, this is a project you can do together (mostly) that will absolutely melt his heart. And the kids will see their dad in a new light and love and respect him all the more.

Here are the instructions for making your Ultimate Gift for him. It’s quick and easy and filled with love.

Materials:

Writing instrument – pen, pencil or colored markers
Paper – plain, fancy or colored
Container – choose a box or a basket, tube, stocking, coffee mug, tool box, fishing tackle box, etc. Be creative and use something that he’ll enjoy later.
The six gifts of understanding:

1) Make a list of all the qualities that you most admire about him. Examples: He’s honest, hard-working, helpful, intelligent, handsome, etc. Men sometimes feel like they’re just a wallet, someone to take out the trash, or the one who kills spiders. This gift will let him know that you see who he really is and that he’s an important part of your life.

2) Make a list of the masculine things about him that you like best. Examples: He’s strong, he makes you feel protected, he’s a great lover, he’s intelligent, his big strong arms, etc.

3) Everything men do points back to what kind of MAN they are. Your guy is no different. Men can be a lot of work to have around, but there are things about men that even our best girlfriends can’t offer. What is it about your guy that causes you to see him as the “man” you wanted to share your life with?

4) Make a list of all the ways you nag him and at the bottom, promise to quit doing so. (The kids can skip this one.)

In poll after poll men have said what they like least about women is nagging and complaining. Partly because it tells him constantly that he’s falling short of being a good man for you because he feels responsible to make you happy and solve your problems. It also is really unattractive and, let’s face it, if you’re not attractive to him, he loses interest. Besides, if you nag and complain enough, he sees you as a bottomless pit that can’t ever be satisfied and he gets worn out and either leaves emotionally (into the paper, TV, work, other women or drugs and alcohol) or physically in divorce. The irony is that we all know that nagging and complaining doesn’t work.

5) Make a list of all the things he does for you that make you happy. Examples: He brings home a paycheck, he takes you out to the movies, he helps with the dishes, he picks up the kids after school, he buys you flowers, he is a great lover, etc.

Men are actually driven to make women happy. It has to do with the primal drive to be a good hunter. Providing meat was the most important thing he did because it meant his family would survive a little longer. Talk about putting a smile on his “woman’s” face. Well, men admit that, more than anything, they feel fulfilled as men when their woman is happy. It means they’re doing a good job of being “the man.”

6) Make a list of the reasons you respect him. Examples: He’s a good provider, he’s a good father, he’s honest, he’s admired by others, etc.

Men need to feel like they’re measuring up to other men and respect is the most important measure of a man. Yes, a man could be rich and powerful but if he’s not respected, it’s meaningless.

A little bonus to his Ultimate Gift:
Make some “naughty” coupons that he can redeem whenever he wants. (This is not for the kids.) Examples: This coupon is good for a Saturday night seduction; this coupon good for a little whipped cream to be licked off very slowly; this coupon good for a slow, sensuous massage; etc.

For most men, the only way they know how to be intimate is sexually. When you first fell in love you probably kissed for hours and couldn’t get enough of each other. Well, why not spark him up and let him know you’d like to enjoy the “pleasure” of his company.

Note!
When you make your lists be sure and include those things that you know he likes and admires about himself. And if you want to get really creative, include examples of why you put each item on your lists. As a follow-up to the written lists, some verbal appreciation would be a perfect way to “tie a bow” on his Ultimate Gift.