Everyone has their own best way of expressing and experiencing love. Men are often uncomfortable with strong emotions, partly because they have been conditioned to avoid them. Men can fall pretty hard when they do allow themselves to love, and that often scares them. Some even say they feel they will lose themselves if they love too freely. So, often, they keep themselves under control.

Your partner may have a way of expressing love to you which is too subtle for you to notice. Or, maybe it’s in a form that you don’t automatically respond to because it’s not your best way to receive love. Most people give love in the way they would like to receive it. And the way people learn to give and receive love has a lot do to with how they learned it in their families. If you were held a lot but never were told with words that you were loved, then you probably need touching more than the words “I love you.” He’s the same way.

So, in order to better receive his love, when you know your man is feeling particularly comfortable with you, ask him: “When you’re experiencing the strongest feelings of love for me, in what way do you usually express it?”

You may be surprised to find that he’s been expressing his love all along but in ways that you were not equipped to notice. Knowing that it’s more difficult for men to express these feelings, and less easy for them to change, learn to receive his love with a new found openness. As he’s speaking, listen without comment. The quieter you are, the safer he’ll feel expressing himself. Remember, this may be new territory for him. After he’s done talking, don’t comment in any “editorial” way. Let him know you appreciate what he said by snuggling with him. (This technique for getting a man to open up and share more from his heart is described in great detail in Men Made Easy.)

At another time ask him how he’d most like to receive your love, then ask if he would like to hear your answer to those questions. You’ll both gain new clarity about an often fuzzy subject. Learn how to get the love you want with Men Made Easy.

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer™