What do you do when an ex wants to get back together, but you think it might be just as friends, and you still have feelings for him? This is a dangerous thing to do because it will keep you stuck in heartache.

When you still have feelings and get back together as a couple, it is too painful to have him near, but basically unavailable. Plus, when he’s wanting to be just friends, he’s going to date and want to tell you about it.

If you spend time as “just friends” when you heart is aching to be with him, you’re being a doormat, allowing him to use you to get some of his needs met, while you ignore your own needs.

This is a good time for you to speak up and set your boundaries. This is not easy when you’re hoping he’s interested in more than just friendship. But if you don’t say anything, and attempt to get together, you’ll be dishonoring yourself. Tell him you still have feelings so you can’t be just friends. Then stick to what you know is best for you in the long run.

One of the most important things I teach in Men Made Easy is how to develop your Feminine Grace. Part of that is learning to fall in love with yourself, learning to honor yourself and not settle for less than you deserve. Getting back with an ex who hasn’t made it clear he wants to be a couple is not how you take care of your own needs. That has to come first. Too many women ignore their own needs when it come to men. Don’t let that happen to you.

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer™