When Men Stress, It’s “Bye, bye,” To the New Girlfriend
17Jun2010 Filed under: Feminine Grace, Understanding Men Author: Kara Oh is The Heart Whisperer™
If you’re still developing a relationship with a man and he begins to pull away, one reason might be because of job or money stress, dealing with children issues, or parents. These are all things he has no choice but to deal with them.
If you’re not yet an established couple, it’s very common for him to stop calling as often, stop texting, stop emailing and even stop dating. One reason he may decide to stop seeing you is you become too needy. It’s when he begins to pull away that you’re most likely to start contacting him more often than you had been. You get nervous, clingy and needy. And you begin to complain that your needs are not being met.
In the beginning, when he’s still deciding if he wants to develop a relationship with you, he’s noticing how you treat him, how demanding you are, how kind and considerate, how good or bad you make him feel, and whether it’s stressful or not to be with you. If he feels like you’re a drain in him in any way, he’ll usually stop seeing you.
With your added details, I’d say you must be coming across too needy. Men need to do the pursuing, and set the tone for how often there’s contact. Most women need way more contact than most men. They need to be reassured, need to know where the relationship is going, need to see that things are moving forward. And if things slow down at all, they tend to start calling, texting, emailing and questioning what’s up. In the very early stages of a relationship, this is a real turn-off to most men.
To be the kind of woman a man falls in love with, you need to focus on being responsible for your own happiness, setting boundaries, expecting respect, being confident and happy. You can do all that in such a way that you glow with inner beauty rather than how many women do it, by being bitchy and behaving in ugly ways. There’s an art to knowing how to treat men so they can’t stand the thought of losing you. But most women have no clue how to do this. I call this way of being Feminine Grace and it’s an important part of the secrets I teach in Men Made Easy. With this winning combination, you can be the woman he falls in love with.
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