I’ve believed a woman should wait until the man says “I love you” first, but I’ve felt like it’s just because it feels so good when the man does the pursuing. You know, that man/woman thing. But while I was exercising I was watching a re-run of Sex In the City. Carrie had told Big that she loved him, but he didn’t say it back. From then on it became a big thing with hours of conversations with the other woman and much emotional  fretting.  So now I see that that’s the reason women should wait. Because if they wait, all they worry about is ‘when will he say it?’ But if the woman says it first and he doesn’t say it back, she gets to go into emotional breakdown until he either says it, or she dumps him because he’s taken too long.

So back to my previous reason to let him go first… it feels great and, having said it first myself, that just feels awful when he obviously doesn’t know what to say. Yikes, talk about embarrassing. Let him be embarrassed if he says it to you and you don’t know what to say.

From my heart to yours,

Kara Oh
The Heart Specialist™

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