If you are trying to make a man love you, it doesn’t work that way. And getting emotional is going to push most any new man away.

Anyone who reads my books and thinks I teach women to cater to a man’s needs, has completely misunderstood. He should be catering to your needs. And men don’t want to hear about a woman’s emotions and feelings. They can’t relate, feel helpless, which makes them feel less of a man. Keep that to yourself or share with girlfriends, sisters or your mother.

You cannot MAKE someone feel something. You can only show up as the most beautiful, gracious, loving, self-assured, fun, happy woman possible. Basically, your very best self. Then, you glow from the inside out, you enjoy being a woman. That’s what men are attracted to. When you are only dating, you can’t expect the man to take care of you emotionally. It’s too early and will scare most men away.

This means you learn to be in control of your emotions, what you say, what you do, how you react. This is not easy. It’s called personal growth “work” for a reason. It takes work.

So start by being the best version of yourself you can possibly be. if he responds positively, great. If not, either you are not there yet, you have turned him off, or, he’s not the right man to see and appreciate who you really are.

From my heart to yours,

The Heart Whisperer